Have Black Women Given Up On Black Men?

A few days ago, I took a female friend to the movies to see “Righteous Kill.” At first, she suggested that we see “The Family That Preys” by Tyler Perry. I adamantly disapproved of paying to spend two hours of my life watching a Tyler Perry film—on purpose. I applaud Perry for kicking ass in Hollywood and experiencing success on his own terms, but his movies are often predictable and feature one-dimensional characters. But that’s beside the point. After I told my friend that I didn’t care to see “The Family..,” she jokingly said, “That’s why I’m about to start dating white men, they wouldn’t mind seeing a Tyler Perry movie with me.” It was a pretty funny come back, but I wondered if a large number of black women were really considering dating white men.
However, I have a feeling that a lot of black women are considering interracial relationships due to the media’s perception of black men. If you relied on the media to tell you who black men were, you would think that all black men were jobless, criminals, irresponsible, weed smokers, cheaters, uneducated, or gay. In turn, many black women have bought into the notion that there is a shortage of good black men.
I understand what a lot of black women are going through when it comes to dating black men. I have sisters, close female friends, and I have dated black women who have discussed their issues regarding black men who have mistreated them. But what I see in a lot of cases are black women who choose to date losers. They may become involved with a guy because of status, looks, or even sex. What they fail to realize is that just because a guy has status, looks, or good sex, it doesn’t mean that his behavior or habits aren’t destructive. But black women have an innate desire to want to heal their men. And what I usually find is that women will continue to date guys with bad habits because they believe that they can change them.
However, there isn’t one woman on earth who can change a man’s behavior. I’m not saying that we can’t turn our lives around and be good family men as we get older, but that only occurs when WE decide it’s the right thing to do. So many black women continue to date the same type of guy over and over. And when they get the same hurtful results, they become frustrated at BLACK MEN—not the TYPE of men who they are dating. It’s easy to say, “I’m tired of black men, it’s time for me to date a white guy.” But I think that is myopic thinking. Because just like there are black guys who have destructive behaviors, there are white guys who have destructive behaviors also. I don’t want black women to think that dating any ole white guy will change their life. I want them to understand that dating a man with values, respect, and integrity—whether he’s black, white, Indian, Arabian, Italian or Asian, will allow them to be at peace with who they are with.

Those are my thoughts, but is it time for black men to press the panic button? Are black women fed up?

As you ponder, here are a few other notable black women who are feeling the Fever:

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Kelly Rowland

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Why Palin Shouldn’t Make You Panic

A few supporters of Barack Obama began to quiver after John McCain selected Sarah Palin to be his running mate. A major defection by angry old Democratic women who supported Hilary Clinton seemed very likely. Politricks is an emotional sport, and John McCain did his best to tug at the emotions of women who would love to see a female in such a powerful position. However, McCain may have reacted prematurely. Here are a few reasons why:

1) Small Timer-I’m not saying that greatness can’t come from small places, but picking Palin for Vice President is kind of like hiring a mayor of a city to be veep. Alaska’s population is just over 700,000. So that means she was in charge of a state that has a few more people than cities such as Austin, Memphis, or Baltimore. And the problems that occur in Alaska can’t compare to the drama that takes place in the M-Town and in B-More. Good luck with taking over the entire United Sates if McCain is no longer available.

2) Family Values-The Republican Party has always pushed the importance of family values. In fact, Palin has pushed for abstinence only programs and disagrees with sex education in schools. When one of the most important leaders of the party has a teenage daughter that’s pregnant, it’s really not a good look. Sure, every family has its own problems and it does humanize Palin. But how can a potential President guide a country if she or he can’t guide their own family correctly?

3) Corruption?-Palin is being investigated on whether she fired a state employee who refused to fire a trooper who divorced her sister. If she’s found guilty, that could really pose a problem for McCain. It also questions her emotional stability and her ethics.

4) Geraldine Ferraro-In 1984, Walter Mondale decided that he wanted to make a political splash by selecting a woman to be his veep. Women across America were ecstatic of the choice—at first. However, like old Pepsi, the Ferraro fiasco fizzled out and led to 8 more years of Republican power.

The honey moon may last for a few weeks, but I predict that Palin’s star will soon fall. She has no substance and McCain’s gamble won’t payoff. Maybe McCain should have picked Condi Rice. Although she's tainted by the Bush Admin, Condi did her thing when it came to foreign affairs. I'm sure she's more ready to lead than a lady who governs a place that is known for snow dogs and Igloos.

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